{"id":9174,"date":"2026-06-06T14:00:51","date_gmt":"2026-06-06T14:00:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/?p=9174"},"modified":"2026-07-09T21:28:13","modified_gmt":"2026-07-09T21:28:13","slug":"ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/","title":{"rendered":"EP#28: The Art of the Personal Essay*"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>The Art of the Personal Essay: An Anthology from the Classical Era to the Present<\/em>, ed. Phillip Lopate, 1994. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">June 2026 \u2014 ???<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This is the 27th book we&#8217;ve tackled for the Essays Project. This is a giant anthology which should keep us going through the summer \u2013 and given anticipated travel likely well into next year. While we had considered being more eclectic, and curating batches of essays from various authors, after one trial (Johnson, EP#26) it seemed easier to return to a published anthology which both eases the burden of selection, and guarantees us paper pages upon which to make notes. So here we gol <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_85 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-light-blue ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Introduction\" >Introduction<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Forerunners\" >Forerunners<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Seneca_On_Noise_Asthma_Scipios_Villa_Slaves\" >Seneca: On Noise; Asthma; Scipio&#8217;s Villa; Slaves<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Plutarch_Consolation_to_His_Wife\" >Plutarch: Consolation to His Wife<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Sei_Shonagan_%E2%80%9CHateful_Things%E2%80%9D\" >Sei Shonagan: &#8220;Hateful Things&#8221;<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Kenko_Essays_in_Idleness\" >Kenko: Essays in Idleness<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Ou-Yang_Hsiu_Pleasure_Boat_Studio\" >Ou-Yang Hsiu: Pleasure Boat Studio<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Fountainhead_Montaigne\" >Fountainhead (Montaigne)<\/a><ul class='ez-toc-list-level-3' ><li class='ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Introduction-2\" >Introduction<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Of_Books_Michel_de_Montaigne\" >Of Books, Michel de Montaigne<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Of_a_Monstrous_Child_Michel_de_Montaigne\" >Of a Monstrous Child, Michel de Montaigne<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#On_Some_Verses_of_Virgil\" >On Some Verses of Virgil<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/tomeri.org\/notes\/2026\/06\/06\/ep27-the-art-of-the-personal-essay\/#Epigraphs\" >Epigraphs<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Introduction\"><\/span>Introduction<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">An excellent introduction that takes on the task of trying to distinguish the personal essay from other sorts of essays, and from seemingly similar writing such as memoir and autobiography. Among Lopate&#8217;s claims about what distinguishes the personal essay from other forms of essay:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Sets up a dialog with the reader based on identification, understanding, testiness, and companionship<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Contains self-revelation, personal experiences and tastes, and can affect a confidential manner<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Less formal in that it may have a rambling structure, relaxed diction, freshness of form, and makes no claims to completeness or definitive treatment. Digressions are OK. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Depends more on style and personality than flawless reasoning<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>May be conversational, with throat clearing, or putting objections in the mouth of the reader<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Struggle for honesty; vulnerability; self-revelation; self-doubt and self-questioning; admission of uncertainty, lapses, errors, defects, shortcomings.  Interrogation of one&#8217;s own ignorance. Amused self-observation.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The narrator must be reliable<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Contrariness: Stand a platitude on its head. Implicate first oneself, then the reader.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Unashamed subjectiveness; &#8220;skeptical yet gyroscopically poised.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">And this taste for the miniature becomes a strong suit of the form: the ability to turn anything close at hand (Charles Lamb&#8217;s ears, Virginia Woolf&#8217;s moth, Samuel Johnson&#8217;s boarding house) into a grand meditational adventure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2014The Art of the Personal Essay, p xxviii  <em>(in Introduction by Phillip Lopate)<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Forerunners\"><\/span>Forerunners<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Seneca_On_Noise_Asthma_Scipios_Villa_Slaves\"><\/span>Seneca: On Noise; Asthma; Scipio&#8217;s Villa; Slaves<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As Lopate says in the introduction, one of his goals is to bring in writings that, while not essays by his definition, have some of the central characteristics he sees in the personal essay. Seneca, followed by Plutarch, are the two [western] classical antecedents. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Seneca seems particularly apt in that, unlike most classical authors, his personality comes through: we come to get a sense of the man through his writing about other things. Other essay-like characteristics include a focus on the mundane (how people behave in a bath house), and moving from the particular to the universal (from asthma to death), and a bit of impish humor at the end (where after all this complaining and discussion of the noise, he admits he is about to move elsewhere. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Plutarch_Consolation_to_His_Wife\"><\/span>Plutarch: Consolation to His Wife<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The Plutarch entry, cast as another predecessor to the essay, seems less apt than Seneca&#8217;s work, because it is a letter to his wife rather than writing addressed to a larger audience. As a consequence, the familiarity of his voice, and the emotional quality of his writing (also a consequence of the topic), seem to me to spring from the particular circumstances, rather than the sort of impulses that motivate personal essayists,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-medium-pink-color\">&#8230; reading break &#8230;<\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">These next three pieces are not essays, in my view, but indicate that the impulse that shaped essays arose independently of western thought. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Sei_Shonagan_%E2%80%9CHateful_Things%E2%80%9D\"><\/span>Sei Shonagan: &#8220;Hateful Things&#8221;<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sei Shonagan is a court lady in 10th Century Japan. She comes across as a snob: opinionated, mannered, petty, spiteful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This forerunner of the essay is essentially a list of everything she hates, ranging from the minute (a mosquito&#8217;s buzz in the bedroom at night) to boorish ill-mannered people. Mildly amusing, and the list tells us a good deal about her and the times and situation in which she lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This piece illustrates Lopate&#8217;s &#8220;unashamed subjectiveness&#8221; and &#8220;self-revelation,&#8221;  and the essay&#8217;s &#8220;taste for the miniature&#8221; (e.g. the mosquito&#8217;s whine). The list form of this essay also anticipates modern essays that cast themselves as lists (which I don&#8217;t care for)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Kenko_Essays_in_Idleness\"><\/span>Kenko: Essays in Idleness<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kenko was some kind of court functionary in 13th-14th C Japan, with a reputation as a poet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The piece is composed of a series of unconnected (as far as I can see) passages about places, scenes, thoughts and so forth. Though as the editor selected the passages to include, perhaps there would be more connection if we could see it all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is true it had an informal tone, and treated with every day life. And that it looks closely at small things. And that it, perhaps, in its fragmentary, drifting form illustrates the approach of keeping things open and incomplete. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">That said, I did not find this writing very interesting. Lacks the wit, verve, and humor of Shonagan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ou-Yang_Hsiu_Pleasure_Boat_Studio\"><\/span>Ou-Yang Hsiu: Pleasure Boat Studio<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">An 11th C Chinese Sung dynasty classical poet ranked as one of the 8 masters of classical Chinese prose. He was a member of the imperial court, and held various offices throughout his life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">He has named his office in the Palace Pleasure Boat Studio, and this piece explains why. He explains that the rooms that make up his office are arranged in a single row, and so the space is long and narrow like a boat. He also notes that after he was exiled he lived on a boat and sailed rivers, and comments that the real purpose of a boat is to deliver people from danger, and not pleasure. But at the same time he notes that some have found pleasure in living on boats, even though he has no time for such diversions. So I suppose his naming his office &#8220;Pleasure Boat&#8221; is ironic, though perhaps he also likes the connotation of delivering him from danger. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But it doesn&#8217;t really make sense to me. Not a vey thrilling piece in my view.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In terms of Lopate&#8217;s characteristics of personal essays, this shows contrariness, self-deprecation, and the conversational gesture of speaking to the reader: &#8220;Is there anything wrong with that?&#8221; <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-medium-pink-color\">&#8230; reading break &#8230;<\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Fountainhead_Montaigne\"><\/span>Fountainhead (Montaigne)<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Introduction-2\"><\/span>Introduction<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Lopate suggests M may have been the greatest essayist who ever lived. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>His family on both sides was wealthy; they were minor land owning nobility<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Notes that he was raised speaking only Latin for the first years of his life, which (not mentioned here) also means he had almost no interaction with his parents or anyone except his tutor. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>M studied law and practiced as a magistrate<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>He cast his essays as self-study, a portrait of himself in words. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>His first book, written from 1572-1574, was short and filled with quotations and not especially personal\u2014but it was a success and gave him more confidence.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>M felt there was a basic unity to human experience. He regarded humanity as constantly in flux, and vain, ashamed and contradictory. But he embedded these views in a frame of forgiveness. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;His own sentences were sinewy, dry, yet succulent: they explode like pomegranate seeds on the tongue.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>He wrote in the vernacular, not Latin<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2026the spirit of humanism was in the air, via Erasmus and others, and the classical Greek and Roman authors were being used as a Trojan borse to open the gates to a freer, more speculative and self-analytical mentality (Socrates&#8217; &#8220;Know thyself&#8217;). Rabelais great, bawdy novel, Gargantua and Pantagruel, likewise gave Montaigne license to write in support of pleasure and an integration of mind and body. Alongside an increase in classical learning and scientific knowledge, new worlds were literally being discovered. Explorers brought back reports of exotic native customs from the Americas and the Pacific, which fueled Montaigne&#8217;s relativistic bent.<br>\u2014ibid., 44<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">While Montaigne deserves credit for inventing the form, I have to say I don&#8217;t care for his writing. He takes paragraphs to say what might be said in a few sentences. And although many seem to think the uncertainty and changeability is a virtue, or at least a characteristic of the new form, I find it a bit irritating. There is something to be said for emphasizing that an important aspect of the personal essay has to do with how the author approaches the topic, but Montaigne not only disclaims expertise, which is fair, but seems to shirk any responsibility for accuracy or accountability. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Having written the above, after reading a few of his essays, I do have to say that I appreciate his tolerant and even compassionate approach. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Of_Books_Michel_de_Montaigne\"><\/span>Of Books, Michel de Montaigne<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The first two pages are mostly disclaimer. He portrays himself as unlearned (which does not seem accurate), and uninterested in grappling with difficult books or study\u2014he just wants to enjoy himself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>&#8220;Let attention not be paid to the matter, but to the shape I give it.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>&#8220;I want them to give Plutarch a fillip on my nose and get burned insulting Seneca in me.&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">After this he comments on books he likes (and some he does not), beginning with entertaining books, fables, poetry. He also likes Seneca, Plutarch, and Cicero. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Of_a_Monstrous_Child_Michel_de_Montaigne\"><\/span>Of a Monstrous Child, Michel de Montaigne<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M describes a child who is a partial Siamese twin, with a headless body joined to his abdomen. He comments that this might be seen as an omen, but it is better not to: &#8220;t<em><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-bright-blue-color\">here is nothing like divining about things past. &#8216;So that when things happen, by some interpretation they are found to have been prophesied.<\/mark><\/em>&#8216; [Cicero]&#8221;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M is compassionate, and argues against revulsion. &#8220;<em><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-bright-blue-color\">We call contrary to nature what happens contrary to custom; nothing is anything but according to nature, whatever it may be. Let this universal and natural reason drive out of us the error and astonishment that novelty brings us.<\/mark><\/em>&#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-text-align-center wp-block-paragraph\"><mark style=\"background-color:rgba(0, 0, 0, 0)\" class=\"has-inline-color has-medium-pink-color\">&#8230; reading break &#8230;<\/mark><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"On_Some_Verses_of_Virgil\"><\/span>On Some Verses of Virgil<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This essay exhibits&nbsp;&nbsp;a candid, cheerful acceptance of the body and its pleasures \u2014 especially sexual pleasure \u2014 as a defense against the gloom of old age. A minor theme is a defense of writing about oneself without shame or euphemism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">On Aging<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Written as M was aging and ailing, he refers to his own bodily decline and refuses a \u201cmelancholic and dull tranquillity,\u201d instead cultivating cheerfulness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let childhood look ahead, old age backward: was not this the meaning of the double face of Janus? Let the years drag me along if they will, but backward. As long as my eyes can discern that lovely season now expired, I turn them in that direction at intervals. If youth is escaping from my blood and my veins, at least I want not to uproot the picture of it from my memory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2014 Michel Montaigne, p 59 [in Lopate]<br><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">On Candid Self-disclosure<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M defends writing frankly; not surprising since his project is to write about himself, and how he sees things. With regard to sex he notes the hypocrisy that we all have sex  yet are ashamed to talk about it because of convention. Complete self-portraiture requires not exempting the body, and indeed he refers to his various ailments and alludes to his own sexual inadequacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">On Love vs. Marriage<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;Love and marriage are two intentions that go by separate and distinct roads. &#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Erotic love and marriage run on different principles. Marriage is a rational, social, durable bond; sexual passion is volatile and belongs elsewhere. Passionate love inside marriage is unstable, even dangerous.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Men and Women<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;Women are not wrong at all when they reject the rules of life that have been introduced into the world, inasmuch as it is the men who have made these without them. &#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">M argues that men and women are not fundamentally different vis a vis sexual appetite. The demands of chastity and constancy are imposed by men and culturally arbitrary;  women are judged unfairly. (But there is also misogyny common to those times \u2014 women are beguiling, inconstant, vicious \u2014 the essay is not proto-feminist, though it does repeatedly undercut male self-flattery.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I say that males and females are cast in the same mold; except for education and custom, the difference is not great. Plato invites both without discrimination to the fellowship of all studies, exercises, functions, warlike and peaceful occupations, in his commonwealth. And the philosopher Antisthenes eliminated any distinction between their virtue and ours.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Other matters<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Jealousy: Reflections on how  sexual and marital customs vary across cultures \u2014 reinforcing that our norms are contingent.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Impotence: his own, and the undesirability of old men in general<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>On writing:  &#8220;Any topic is equally fertile to me. A fly will serve my purpose.&#8221; &#8220;I owe a complete portrait of myself to the public.&#8221;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>On his conduct of affairs: he presents himself as fair to a fault.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Epigraphs\"><\/span>Epigraphs<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Let childhood look ahead, old age backward: was not this the meaning of the double face of Janus? Let the years drag me along if they will, but backward. As long as my eyes can discern that lovely season now expired, I turn them in that direction at intervals. If youth is escaping from my blood and my veins, at least I want not to uproot the picture of it from my memory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Praise a hunchback for his handsome figure and he is bound to take it as an insult. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;Love and marriage are two intentions that go by separate and distinct roads. &#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It is no longer time to kick when we have let ourselves be hobbled. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;Women are not wrong at all when they reject the rules of life that have been introduced into the world, inasmuch as it is the men who have made these without them. &#8220;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">&#8220;Any topic is equally fertile to me. A fly will serve my purpose.&#8221;                                                                      <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Everyone shuns to see a man born, everyone runs to see him die. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Things least feared are least guarded against and observed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Certainly Love&#8217;s conduct has much more style when mingled with heedlessness and confusion; mistakes and misadventures give it style and grace. Provided it is sharp and hungry , it matters little whether it is prudent. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n<p>Views: 12<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Art of the Personal Essay: An Anthology from the Classical Era to the Present, ed. Phillip Lopate, 1994. June 2026 \u2014 ??? This is the 27th book we&#8217;ve tackled for the Essays Project. 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